As a result of the history of the human race as being diverse tribally and racially, it is an elemental attribute to have and develop trust and love for only those in close association with a person, related by blood or via ethnic roots. Any other person outside that circle is considered a stranger and viewed with subconscious eyes. Therefore, it becomes relevant that being trusted is earned, rather than a naturally occurring privilege, especially where one is a first-timer or bears a certain stereotypical tag. In this blog post, we’ll be sharing with you, How To Make People Love & Trust You.
- Greet people warmly with a smile
It all begins with a smile, and then a sincere “How do you do?” to smoothly widen a closed mind toward you. The enthusiasm in your voice while greeting an old, beloved friend you haven’t seen in a while can leave an incredible impression on someone meeting you for the first time. Many people have confessed to feeling wanted and accepted just by the way they were greeted as though the greeting was golden. A smile deeply expressed is always remembered even after time has passed. Little wonder skillful customer service officers show infectious warmth to clients who are considered the hope of the organization. Interestingly, when someone feels good greeting you, he has intuitively inclined himself to love and trust you.
- Ask open-ended and insightful questions
As opposed to crisp, straight-to-the-point questions, asking open-ended questions permits explanations in answers, thereby engaging the respondent in a conversation actively. For example, when you meet someone for the first time, asking an unassuming question could take the form of, “Can you tell me about your favorite sport?” instead of “Football is your favorite sport, right?” Coupled with a wise approach of not delving beyond perceived boundaries, asking questions that will trigger a person to relax and be himself in your presence necessitates trust. You will understand his personality, his unique problems, and the style of conversation that best suits him.
- Listen attentively to people
Listening isn’t the same as hearing. While listening demands presence and understanding, hearing can be likened to a reflex action that doesn’t need any prompting to take place. To earn love and trust from people, you have to cultivate the habit of listening, attentively. That involves removing every form of distraction, like your phone around you, and listening as though both of you are the only people that exist in the universe. Look him in the eyes, and use facial gestures to let him know you are absorbing every word he speaks. Listening means allowing someone to talk without rudely interrupting them. Paying attention while a person is talking to you is a simple yet powerful tool in communication.
- Talk selectively
As serious as listening is, talking selectively is important in one’s quest to be trusted. The intents and purposes of the heart are easily disclosed through the mouth. Again, blabbing on a topic without ever slowing down is a huge turnoff for some people. The rule of thumb here is to listen more, say less, and let others talk more.
- Attest their strengths and achievements
No better way of making someone feel important than by harping on their accomplishments, which they have taken time to list out to you. Rather than put them down while focusing on things they are yet to achieve, it is best to decently approve of their achievements and show genuine interest in what they have been able to do for themselves, no matter how little it looks. Clearly, it pays to beam the light on others more than we would want to do on ourselves if we are to get them to trust us.
- Respect people’s boundaries.
It is easier to cross boundaries than to stay within them. In a relationship, parties involved may have openly or passively made known areas they could get hurt from if toyed with. A way to earn and sustain love and trust is by striving to relate with them within the limits they have set until such a time they are comfortable to allow more space for you. By forcibly wanting to disrespect their unique reservations, you must have succeeded in breaking the trust they have or could have for you.
- Show that you are reliable
A healthy horse looks strong and reliable, likewise a person who shows a healthy dose of dependability in his words and actions. When you make a promise to call and you fulfill it, you have shown reliability. When you write that you are going to visit on a given day, and you eventually make good on that promise, you are dependable. When you are expected to deliver a project within the quickest of time and you do so, you have proven to be trustworthy and people will love and trust you. Not selling your loyalty at the expense of a few lies in order to get some money is a sign of reliability. Simply put, a reliable person demonstrates the strength of character, which can handle the fragility of trust. It is not just in words, but with matching actions.
- Always be yourself
Humans learn to trust consistency. Any personality that wavers unpredictably is quickly rejected or taken as a joke. Whoever you are and in whatever you do, make it a point of duty to retain your identity. As such, can win the trust of people for you. If you are naturally outgoing, make a positive impact on people with that attribute, instead of faking being reserved. If you enjoy spending time indoors more than you would outdoors, start from the onset to communicate that to people who you feel deserve to know it. Don’t put on a lifestyle that looks fanciful in order to mask your original personality. When people get to know who you truly are, they learn to give you their love and trust. Or withdraw it.
In summary, to make people trust you, you can start by greeting them warmly with a smile upon meeting them; ask them open-ended and insightful questions, listen to them attentively, talk selectively, attest to their strengths and achievements, respect their boundaries, show that you are reliable, and always be yourself.